50 Ways to Creating Enduring Connections

Wouldn’t you agree that life is about quality connections? Our success, happiness, and well-being are largely the by products of our ability to get along well with others and cultivate positive relationships. Below is a checklist of the active ingredients in creating enduring connections. These are from the book, “Get Along with Anyone, Anytime, Anywhere … 8 keys to creating enduring connections with customers, co-workers … even kids” by Arnold Sanow and Sandra Strauss

  • Make people your passion
  • Be interested, not just interesting
  • Be a conscious connector in building positive relationships
  • Boost good feelings in others
  • Communicate with care
  • Engage the interest of others by focusing on what interests them
  • Approach each interaction with positive intent
  • Take the initiative to reach out to others first
  • Project a positive presence
  • Be attentive
  • Express empathy
  • Build trust; mean what you say, and say what you mean
  • Adapt how you communicate to best serve what others need
  • Act in ways that make people feel valued
  • Give feedback tactfully and receive it willingly
  • Create a sense of safety and openness
  • Mend misunderstandings
  • Keep an open mind
  • Seek to understand how others see a situation
  • Acknowledge and honor the feelings of others
  • Monitor and master your emotions
  • Hear people out
  • Drop any need to “be right”
  • Let go of grudges
  • Manage difficult interactions with effective strategies
  • Greet people with a smile
  • Open your heart when it closes
  • Seek peace when others don’t
  • Be responsive to what others want or need
  • Respect differences
  • Let words of caring and kindness work magic
  • Don’t take anyone for granted
  • Thank people for their help, their time, their service, their thoughtfulness, their caring, and their support
  • Act as a catalyst to help others get what they want
  • Praise positive behaviors
  • Energize the winning spirit
  • Make the right choices to create desired outcomes
  • Give people credit for their ideas
  • Express a dazzling attitude, even when it’s difficult
  • Resolve conflicts with diplomacy
  • Build bridges that join; remove walls that separate
  • Release negative labels (of yourself or others)
  • Speak your truth
  • Accept responsibility; avoid playing the blame game
  • Forgive others (and yourself) for flubs, faux pas, and foibles
  • Light the way with laughter
  • Project a cooperative spirit
  • Express enthusiasm
  • Encourage the expression of gifts, talents and personal excellence
  • Model the behaviors you want others to express
  • Handle every connection with care and keep them in good repair