47 Ways to Build Valuable Connections … And Make Them Count!

If you are trying to gain cooperation from your staff, persuade or influence a client or co-worker, close a sale, make the right impression, ace an interview, or convince an audience, you must first connect with them. Below is a checklist of the active ingredients in creating lasting connections.  How many of these are you following on a regular basis?

  • Make people your passion
  • Be interested, not just interesting
  • Be a conscious connector in building positive relationships
  • Boost good feelings in others
  • Communicate with care and the other person’s feelings in mind
  • Engage the interest of others by focusing on what interests them
  • Approach each interaction with positive intent
  • Take the initiative to reach out to others first
  • Project a positive presence (Smile) or (Don’t scowl or frown all the time). Many people walk around with a permanent scowl on their faces and they don’t even realize it
  • Be attentive
  • Express empathy
  • Build trust; mean what you say, and say what you mean
  • Adapt how you communicate to best serve what others need
  • Act in ways that make people feel valued
  • Give feedback, constructively, tactfully and receive it willingly
  • Create a sense of safety and openness
  • Keep an open mind and an open heart
  • Seek to understand how others see a situation (Be empathetic)
  • Acknowledge and honor the feelings of others
  • Monitor and master your emotions
  • Hear people out
  • Drop any need to “be right.” It’s not a contest
  • Let go of grudges
  • Greet people with a smile
  • Open your heart when it closes
  • Seek peace when others don’t
  • Be responsive to what others want or need
  • Respect differences
  • Let words of caring and kindness work magic
  • Don’t take anyone or anything for granted
  • Thank people for their help, their time, their service, their thoughtfulness, their caring, and their support
  • Act as a catalyst to help others get what they want
  • Praise positive behaviors
  • Energize the winning spirit
  • Give people credit for their ideas
  • Express a dazzling attitude, even when it’s difficult
  • Build bridges that join; remove walls that separate
  • Release negative labels (of yourself or others)
  • Speak your truth
  • Accept responsibility; avoid playing the blame game
  • Forgive others (and yourself) for flubs, faux pas, and foibles
  • Light the way with laughter
  • Project a cooperative spirit
  • Express enthusiasm
  • Encourage the expression of gifts, talents and personal excellence
  • Model the behaviors you want others to express
  • Handle every connection with care and keep them in good repair